7 Principles to Peace, Joy, and Absolute Passion

Principle 3: Be solution-focused.

The flood waters were rising all around the house and the man inside was praying, God, please save me and take me away from this certain disaster. The man heard pounding at the front door and voices yelling, “Come out; we have a boat. Come away with us.” The man yelled back, “Go ahead, God will save me.” The waters kept rising quickly lapping at his heels as he ascended the stairs to the second floor. Screams came from outside, “Jump out the window into the water; we have a raft and life vest and we’ll pull you into the raft and carry you to safety.” The man yelled back, “Go ahead, God will save me.” Water continued to rise even faster now as the man climbed onto the roof. A helicopter came and lowered a ladder and the rescue workers were pointing for him to climb the ladder to safety. The man waved them on yelling, “Go ahead, God will save me.” The man drowned. He came face to face with God and asked, “Why didn’t you save me from drowning?” God replied, “I sent a boat, a raft, and a helicopter to save you, what were you expecting?”

You see, God was in all the rescue attempts but the man was so close-minded (recall the opposite as being growth-oriented from Principle 2) in expecting God to remove him from the situation altogether that he could not see the other opportunities and solutions.

So, how can we shift our thinking and why is it important?

“The significant problems of today cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created them.” – Albert Einstein

First, you have to acknowledge there is a problem, or as I prefer to call it, challenge. Then say it aloud, or even better, write it down to establish recognition. Then tear up the paper and consciously shift to solution-focus.

“If you want to be happy, put your effort into controlling the sail, not the wind.” - Anonymous

Instead of trying to “get it right,” let your thoughts free flow. Then, ask questions, trusting that a solution will come. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • What am I missing?
  • What is another way I can think about or look at this issue?
  • How would someone else view this situation?
  • What opportunities are available?
  • What have I learned from a similar situation or circumstance?
  • What resources are available now?
  • What additional resources would be of benefit?
  • Would more training help? If so, how can I obtain the needed training?
  • What skills can I sharpen or add?
  • Could I benefit from technology, support, brain-storming, etc.?
  • Who could I reach out to for help?

Once you have all the information that came forth, design your plan. Your plan should encompass the vision statement you created in Principle 1 and build in the qualities of who you want to be (or the company in a corporate environment) and evoke the feelings that you want to experience. For now, don’t worry about the details, just work to create the plan. Give yourself permission to change the plan – continue to let it evolve (being mindful of any hard deadline, of course), which will free you from trying to make it perfect on the first pass, or draft. Refine the plan as needed and then start working the plan…the how will come as you go deeper.

With the overall plan created, reverse engineer to create S.M.A.R.T. goals, which are: Specific (first step), Measureable, Achievable, Reasonable, and Time-oriented. Sometimes just having a plan is enough to get you moving forward, and breaking it down into manageable goals is not necessary.

Being intentionally and consciously solution-focused helps you recognize and act on opportunities and possibilities that you may have otherwise not even noticed.

So, let’s recap our journey to peace thus far. Know and be anchored by your core values and fix your eyes on what is unseen (vision), which leads to victory. Be growth-orientated and solution-focused. These Principles will serve you as you make decisions in all areas of your life, empower you to create the life you want and to be who you want to be in this world.

As your coach, I believe that all answers lie within. We just often need a little help to discover and allow them to come forth.

Abound in grace,

Karen

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