7 Principles to Peace, Joy, and Absolute Passion
Principle 1: Be WHO you want to be, not who you've been.
Let me be clear first and foremost that there is absolutely nothing wrong with who you are. You are absolutely awesome, beautifully and uniquely created to be YOU.
Most of us, at one time or another, have wondered if there is more to life than this. Well the simple yet profound answer is no. Now is all there ever is. But each moment presents a wonderful opportunity for us to decide WHO we want to be.
We have dreams and desires that we may have suppressed, forgotten or postponed. We may even ask deeper questions like: “What is my purpose?” or “Why am I here?” Sometimes we even “should” ourselves with statements such as: “I should be able to get it together” or “I should be doing more ___ and less ___” (you fill in the blanks). Perhaps we ask questions like: “Why do I keep making the same mistakes?” or “Why do I feel as if I am not living the life I should be?” For me, it was the statement: “I’m tired of being tired.” I was expending tons of energy, working crazy ridiculous hours, feeling anxious and exhausted and thus not feeling at peace, which is what I desperately desired. I had become a human doing not a human being. I didn’t know (nor did I really like) WHO I was anymore.
So, why is it important to know your WHO? Because who you are shines through from your very being and is the basis or foundation to ground you when things get hectic, and from which you live, make decisions and participate in relationships. It is being.
So, how do we go about figuring this WHO out?
We look at our Values & Vision to obtain Victory (V3)!
The first V is Values – Identify and get anchored in your core values.
We have thoughts, feelings and emotions, but we are not our thoughts, feelings or emotions. – Frances Vaughn
Whether conscious or not, values are the compass of your life…guiding you along life’s way. Knowing your values frees you to make choices and decisions that are congruent with what is most important to you. This knowledge also helps you identify potential clashes in values, which result in conflicts. With this awareness, you may proceed from a place of empowerment, by choosing which value to honor. Being aware that you are choosing one value over another can greatly reduce or virtually eliminate feelings of guilt.
Grab a piece of paper and pencil and just write – fill in the following blanks with whatever comes to you, as many things as possible.
- If ________________ were missing from my life, I would feel dead inside.
- When I experience or have ______________, I feel at peace in the world.
- When I have or experience ______________, I feel elated/excited.
- When I see or hear about ____________, it makes me sad, cry, or get angry.
Your responses point to your core values. The following are a couple examples. If laughter were missing from my life, I would feel dead inside. This could point to core values such as fun or humor. When I have or experience completing a project, I feel excited. This could identify core values such as accomplishment, fulfillment or professionalism.
Have fun with this exercise. Then periodically repeat or check in because our core values can and will change as we change and grow. For example, the core values of a person at 40 will most likely be different than when he or she was 20. However, some values such as spirituality, friendship, family, trust, or honesty, just to name a few, may be unchanging throughout our lives.
The second V is Vision – Create/define WHO you desire to be.
You must be the change you wish to see in the world. -Mahatma Gandhi
If you already have a vision statement, congratulations! You have given yourself an amazing gift. I invite you now to check in and reconnect with that vision. If you have never created a vision statement, then, oh boy, are you in for a giant leap forward.
It is important to know where you are going; otherwise, you are sure to stay right where you are – stuck in stress and strife. The Bible emphasizes even more importance in Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (KJV). Your vision (personal and/or business) should be written in the present tense and as if you are living and experiencing it right now, because let’s face it, now is all there ever is. Your vision should not be focused on having or acquiring things or being someway or someone such as having a million dollars, living in a mansion, owning a yacht, being famous, or being like Donald Trump. All these are future-focused, fleeting, temporary illusions of the mind, ego-inflators. As such, they ultimately do not empower you.
Your vision should be bold, full of energy and express your deepest desires. The good news is that your vision is already within you. Give yourself permission to feel into the process, to be creative and then capture words on paper to express those feelings and desires. Make sure your vision is focused on activities and relationships with others and to the world as a whole. Ask yourself questions like: What am I doing? Where am I doing it (Be general like near water without naming a specific body of water)? Who am I doing it with? Who am I serving? How am I serving myself and others? How do I feel being in this service or relationship? How does this action enrich my life and the lives of others?
Vision Statements can be short and powerful or expanded to encompass all areas of your life or business. Here are a couple short examples:
- I live unconditional love and relate kindly with everyone.
- We provide exceptional service to our clients by: helping them think outside the box, improve efficiencies, and increase profits; keeping our skills sharp, our technology current, and our integrity spotless. We conduct ourselves and our business with honor and humility, seeking first to understand, then to serve and then to be clearly understood. Our award-winning team fosters repeat customers who recommend us to others, resulting in word-of-mouth growth.
Once you have your vision expressed in writing, then read it at least once a day. By feeling into and affirming your vision, which you already have, you are actually bringing it into your consciousness so it can manifest in your present reality.
The third V is Victory – Victory as defined by you.
“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.” – Buddha
Knowing what is most important to you (values) and knowing where you are going (vision) establishes a solid foundation from which to live your peace-full life in victory! Victory is yours, and, you already have it. We’re just cultivating the conditions for you to let it bloom.
Abound in grace,
P.S. – If you ever have questions, feel comfortable reaching out to me (Click here)