The Next Right Step

So much to do…so little time.

Do you feel pulled in a million directions?

Do you put yourself last and end up exhausted at the end of each day?

Do you procrastinate because you just don’t have time to plan, and even if you do plan things, usually end up going off plan?

Are you in awe and wonder at how some people seem to get so much accomplished AND have time for themselves as well as make time for fun and adventures with family and friends?

You are not alone.

So, what’s the secret? 

Read any article or book about what successful people do, and you’ll find that they take time to set goals and create a plan for achieving stated goals. You’ll also read that most, if not all, take time frequently to breathe properly, meditate and center so they tap their higher guidance and intuition for living as well as in setting goals, planning and taking inspired action consistently towards their goals.

Many do this near the end of a calendar year as they survey the prior year, harvest lessons learned, make adjustments, dream and set their plans and goals to help direct their work-flow for the year ahead. 

Regardless of what date the calendar shows, NOW is always the perfect time. So, whether you are planning, revising plans, adapting to changes, or simply beginning, it’s time to get started.


Put time on your calendar - even 30 minutes will be a great start, but an hour or more would be most beneficial, so you are able to fully enjoy the process. Then actually show up for yourself at the appointed time. During that time, breathe and center yourself and then free write your dreams and aspirations. Dream big and look ahead 10 years, 5 years, 1 year. 

Then ASK yourself, if I could accomplish my 10 year dreams in the next year or less, what goals can I set now?

Next, create SMART goals. Even if you are familiar with SMART goals, I encourage you to keep reading as a reminder and refresher and a check-up or check-in.

So, what exactly are SMART goals? They are…

S - Specific (First Step) _______________________________________________

M - Measureable _______________________________________________

A - Achievable _______________________________________________

R - Reasonable _______________________________________________

T - Time-Oriented _______________________________________________

Accountable to: __________________________________ Date: ________________

Keep breaking down your goals until you come up with your Next Right (i.e. First) Step. If you get to any letter of the process and determine you don’t know how to move ahead, then set that one aside (you can come back to it once you have more information/knowledge) and go back to the S – Specific (First Step) until you have that inspired next right step.

Perhaps your next right step is to research or ask someone their opinion….once you progress through each letter in SMART, then find someone to hold you accountable. Now, simply start – take that next right step.

Celebrate, and then repeat.

Periodically check in and make sure that your tasks are still aligned and moving you closer and closer towards realizing your dreams and aspirations. If not, then put some planning time on your calendar and make adjustments.

Sometimes, overwhelm can cause frustrations and lack of clarity, and you may not even know what your dreams and aspirations are anymore. Perhaps you’re just getting by until _________ [fill in the blank].

Maybe you are so task-oriented that you are not even enjoying the process and lack the energy to adjust and course correct.

Or, you’ve tried this before and it just didn’t work for you.

There’s hope!

I mentioned earlier that you are not alone. Get help. Ask a trusted mentor or coach to help you. Friends and family are great too, but often have their own agendas. Although they really want to help fix or take away your pain and frustration, this bias, while loving and admirable, may not be the objective assistance that would best serve you.

Would you like some help to set and AIM SMART goals so that you thrive while planning and achieving your goals and dreams?

Are you curious about how to AIM your SMART goals?

Does your heart’s desire include a deepened sense of inner peace and joy while rockin’ your external goals and dreams?


Great. Then your next right step is to click here and schedule a one-hour Thrive-ability coaching session for only $29. This session is easily worth $600 or more but I am committed to helping as many as I can live continually from an expanded space for grace.

It is my honor and privilege to serve you.


Abound in grace,



Just turn on the news and you’ll be inundated with crime, murder, robbery, hatred, disrespect, unkindness, lack and scarcity rhetoric. We have become addicted to perpetuating fears and accentuating differences in ways that incite violence, hatred, and rage in order for one person or group to feel validated, entitled, better than, justified, worthy, and right. Thus, another is invalidated, unworthy, less than, and wrong.

We fill our hearts and minds with information that perpetuates the viewpoint that we tend to favor. We do this in news, entertainment, religion, and all aspects of life. We belittle what we consider and judge as opposite or our opponent. Why?

Well, to feel safe, loved, protected. We give our responsibilities over to a person, establishment or government to fulfill the aforementioned needs and desires. Then, we shut out, deny, withdraw and become further and further intolerant of anything or anyone that we perceive as a threat against our so-called safety.

We go about gathering more and more evidence to support our “correct” position. We create dualistic sides – right and wrong, good and bad, blessed and evil. Whichever side you are on, you can find evidence that further separates and increases the divide.

Then, armed with venom and fueled with the fire of fear, we set out to squelch the others, who are also fueled with the fire of fear.

Then we wonder why things are so bad. Why can’t “they” see the truth? Who is to blame? And who is going to stop them and protect us?

Please pardon the analogies and cliches, but I feel they are a powerful way to demonstrate the absurdity of this tit-for-tat, spit-n-spat, I’m right, you’re wrong, name-calling, mud-slinging, hatred that fills the airways and social media….if you choose to tune in.

I have chosen not to tune in - or not very often - for many months, but have watch the news the past few evenings. I cannot keep silent.

Oneness – WE ARE ONE. One body with many members.


We are spiritual. Everything is love. Life is love. Love is life expressed in me/in you, as me/as you, through me/through you.


NOW is the time for us to AWAKEN to see that hurting and killing “the other” is hurting and killing ourself. Shall we learn, observe, and see from history? Please! 

Nations and peoples come and go are wiped out by another – no nation has ever “won” and kept their power over others.

What if we practiced Tolerance?

What is Tolerance?

Here’s the definition from that best applies for the purpose of this writing:

a :  sympathy or indulgence for beliefs or practices differing from or conflicting with one's own

b :  the act of allowing something

With deep and sincere humility and compassion for all my brothers and sisters, I invite each of us to imagine our world where we accentuate our differences to celebrate God/Love/Life/Source’s beautiful and unique and vastly varied expressions.

What if we approached differences from a perspective of curious learning?

What if tolerance meant that we love more?

What if we adopted a belief of abundance? And put our resources, our minds, our ingenuity, our passions and desires to work for the good of all?

What could be possible? 

  • Clean water for everyone on the planet.
  • Use of renewable resources in healthy ways.
  • Exploration and respect for all life.

Each and every person happy to discover, express, and share their unique gifts.

Won’t you join me in recognizing differences as God’s beautiful expression of love?

There is no greater love than this...and I am grateful.


Abound in grace,


5 + 1 Life Lessons

Lately I’ve been noticing people saying a lot of things, like the following:

o It’s complicated
o Life’s a struggle
o Life is hard
o Things are just changing too quickly
o Time is flying by
o If they would only do this or that, then I could …

We hear things like this so often that soon we adopt such language, and then we begin to believe it.

Before long, it becomes our truth, individually and collectively. And adopting such limiting beliefs
actually holds us back from fulfillment and enjoying life to the fullest potential.

Enough already!

We spend too much time bemoaning the way things are or waiting until, well, we keep waiting on
something, someone, or circumstances to change or improve so then we can be happy, satisfied,
fulfilled. Yet, we turn around and complain about how fast things are changing and how quickly time goes by.

We tend make things much more complicated than they have to be. There is a quote attributed to
Albert Einstein, commonly given as, “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but no simpler,” or “Make things as simple as possible, but not simpler.”

I’ve learned a few life lessons and feel obliged to share them in hopes that you may incorporate more simple pleasures in each day, so that you experience more blessedness, passion, and purpose. And, with consistent practice, you just might discover that stress and judgment lessens as you let go of the old limiting beliefs. Replace them with new, more supportive habits and you just might discover and believe that life is meant to be lived!

Here are 5 + 1 Life Lessons to help keep things simple and live life to the fullest:

#1: Remember to have FUN. If you think and believe life is hard, then you’re right. Why not adopt an attitude that life is an adventure meant to be enjoyed? Seek ways to turn even the most mundane tasks in to a fun experience. Whistle. Sing. Wiggle or dance while you work. Smile – a lot! Laugh even more. Be willing to look silly – truthfully, others will probably be jealous. Be genuine and authentic, somber and serious as appropriate, all while letting your inner joy shine.

#2: Be curious. Don’t take yourself or others too seriously or personally. We can get all caught up
in what others think and drain our energy being “people pleasers.” Let go of all that nonsense. Adopt a questioning and curious attitude. Be genuinely interested in learning and growing. There is always more to learn, and there is always another perspective. Let go of having to be “right”. This alone will create such a sense of freedom!

#3: Enjoy each moment – that’s all there ever is – NOW. Practice proper breathing, which will keep
you focused and centered, and allow you to actually enjoy what you are doing – regardless of situation or circumstance. After all, you are where you are and you are always there by choice – either consciously or unconsciously – you absolutely have the choice. The more you embrace and harness your divine power, which comes from God/Love/Life/The Source within, the greater your pleasure and sense of fulfillment in each moment of life.

#4: Keep growing. We grow or we die. Choose to be growth-oriented. Simply notice when life seems to be a struggle or you’re experiencing strife. Then, simply ask yourself (see #2 above), what can I learn? What is the opportunity here? What’s another way I could look at this? If I didn’t take this so personally, how could I grow through this experience? And, have fun with your discoveries (#1 above).

#5: Nothing is ever final. Change is constant. Sometimes we just want to rest. We want to stop time to prolong pleasures or stop the madness or escape the chaos. At other times, we pray for this moment to pass, for pleasantries to subside, or simply to get through something we deem unbearable. Take back your power – stop giving it away to someone else, something else, or some circumstance or situation. Whatever “it” is – it is temporary. This too will pass. So, knowing that change is constant, we can choose to live full out, knowing the mountain top experiences will not last, nor will the valleys. Embracing change will help you live fully regardless – this is the great leveler – the key to walking the narrow path. So few people do this – but you can! Simple choose to embrace change and LIVE!

+1: It/Everything begins and ends with me (you). Choose to be the cause of your life experience.
You and only you have the power to decide how you show up, how you view the world and your place in it. You can change your entire life as fast as you believe possible. Realize that you are more than your thoughts. Learning to take captive your thoughts so they work to support you and no longer hold you back is life-changing.

This can be challenging because we become so used to our way of thinking and we believe it to be the right way – i.e. change is often hard, we are often very resistant to even the possibility of entertaining change. I do not believe that we are meant to take on this thing called life alone.

Why do I believe this? Look around…there are other people, other things, we can watch even our thoughts. Thus, we are never alone. Be at choice in how you show up to life, how you relate to and lead not only yourself, but others as well. Have the courage to face your fears and choose to create the life of your deepest desires and highest dreams. It’s time to WAKE UP and realize that each of us can and do create our own life – either consciously or unconsciously. Take back your power and then share with others to help them wake up, too!

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, fed up with just getting by or not living the life you thought you would or know you can, I encourage you to get help. Don’t do it alone….being open and accepting help is an act of incredible strength and willingness to not simply survive but thrive and truly live the life that only you can live!

I invite you to Thrive Where You Are and Grow Where You Dare!


Yes! Yes! Yes!

Take a moment to reflect….What life lessons can you share?
Remember, we’re all in this thing called life together and we absolutely learn from one another, if we choose!

Abound in grace,


P.S. Are you curious to discover what living the life of your deepest desires and highest vision might look like? Then I encourage you to book your free Thrive-Ability Session by simply clicking here.

Do It Again!

Do It Again! What do you want more of?

I know nearly every detail of my parents first meeting me until I was home the next day. You see, I was adopted when I was six weeks old. 

Now, you may be curious as to how I could know the details of something that happened when I was a mere six weeks old.

Well, I just always remember knowing and never really gave much thought as to how I came to know. Then one day, not too long before she died, Mom and I were talking about the events surrounding my adoption and I was telling her the story - really seeking confirmation that I had it right.

That’s when Mom reminded me that my favorite bedtime stories were those surrounding all the details of my adoption. The day Mom and Dad met me, the paperwork, character references and search leading up to this special day, every detail through them getting to take me home, and my homecoming. She shared about the long drive and Daddy being so careful and with her afraid to even breathe deeply because I was asleep in her lap.

The length of the stories would depend on how long it took for me to go to sleep. Many times, Mom said, she would think I was sound asleep because I was so quiet and peaceful so she would stop talking. Then, I would look up at her, smile and say, “Do it again Mommy.”

We humans want to keep experiencing more of the things that make us feel good, feel excited, feel happy, and feel joy. Most simply, we want to be and feel love – that which we truly already are.

So, if it’s so simple, then why don’t we all always feel and experience love?

Well, we’re human. We forget that we are love. Very much like I had forgotten the bedtime stories.

While I remember details my life experiences added a few things, confused some aspects and embellished others. So, the event happened and as it is later remembered, shared and retold, well, it changes. 

Why, because the story tellers and hearers change. We grow. 

But, we often forget that we’ve changed and grown.

As I am remembering in this very moment, my feelings are stirred, my emotions are swirling and other memories flood my mind. It is as if I am back, a child safe and secure, in my Mom’s loving arms. And, yet some of those other memories make me feel afraid and alone and longing for that love I felt as a child. All this and I haven’t moved an inch. I’m still sitting and typing this article.

This proves that our thoughts invoke our feelings and emotions which then move us to action (I just had to write this today) or perhaps even inaction, depending on how we internalize our thoughts. Some, like I am sharing here, inspire more positive responses while others can be very different, resulting in negative reactions.

It is those negative reactions that our mind often fixates. We can spend a lot of time trying to avoid or create the extreme opposite of what we don’t want to experience and feel.

This, over time, is exhausting. No wonder most people are not as happy and fulfilled as they could be and as they inherently know they can be.

The bottom line though, is that we each create our own reality. Whether positive or negative, we are responsible for creating our life. Our job is to embrace change and to learn and grow through our experiences. As we mature and become more masterful, we hopefully learn the principles of the world and how to play with them to create a life where we can BE our highest and best self.

So, what do you want to experience and feel more of in your life?

Focus on these positive things instead of what you don’t want.

What’s slowing you down, standing in your way or stopping you from experiencing more this now?

If you are ready to start living the life you deeply desire and just can’t seem release the old patterns that keep bringing more of what you don’t want, I’m here to help…Book a free Energy Scan, and do it now, by simply Clicking Here.

Abound in grace,


P.S. I write this on Mother’s Day 2017 and am awash with love and gratitude for the stories Mom shared, which wonderful memories that are with me always. Now, I simply think, “Do it again Mommy” and, even though tears well up because I no longer enjoy her physical presence, I experience and feel deep love.